R-E-S-P-E-C-T (find out what it means to me)

One time, my senior year in high school, we were voting for a speaker for the graduation choir concert. Every year a senior was selected to speak to represent the choir and the graduating students of the choir. Needless to say it was a big honor to be selected and in the past the selection process had been an had extensive rounds of student voting to narrow the candidates down to one-the selected speaker.
During my senior year, it came time to vote for the speaker and all the seniors were very excited for the opportunity to speak and vote. However, instead of the usually extensive voting and narrowing process, my director merely took all the nominees and did one vote, the winner only winning by a vote or two against about 15 other nominees. I was not selected, but that was not the issue. The issue was the lack of care and time the director took in making this decision. After classes that day I, politely asked my director if I could speak to him. He offered me some time. I explained that i was not challenging the decision but rather challenging the process by which the speaker was chosen this year, that it had not been addressed with as much care as it had been in the past. I said I didn't expect anything to change for that year but that in the years to come he should consider how he goes about the voting, since it is a big deal to the seniors of the choir. After I explained my feelings he was very polite and thanked me for my maturity and thoughtfulness about how I approached the situation. I thanked him for his time and left.
However, the next day in choir he opens up the floor for nominees again. Confused, everyone asked why (since the decision had already been made). He then proceeds to say, in a very snarky way, that, "Someone came and complained about the way we voted, so i guess we have to do it again to be fair." Directly following this statement be proceeds to stare straight at me (in front of the entire ensemble) and shoot me an annoyed look. I know that people saw him look at me because several people turned around and gave me puzzled looks.
In the end, the voting turned out the same. But since I never asked him to re-do the vote I do not feel that it was my decision to waste time, ultimately it was his decision. It was also his decision to lie to me in his office and thank me for being strong enough to approach him and then to turn around and publicly say the opposite. Needless to say, i did not feel respected by my educator in that moment.

However, this same teacher did show me respect in many moments. My senior year, I took an independent study with this director and I was very stressed one day about how my peers were negatively speaking about my achievements and how I only got the successes because I was a "favorite." This particularly bothered me because I have a philosophy that you only get what you work for, and I know I had worked hard to build all those achievements. One day during my independent study I was merely venting to my teacher about my frustrations with some of the comments my classmates had been making and I had not expected him to respond as we were working on a project. However, I was truly amazed when he stopped and told me that all the leadership positions, roles, and awards he has seen me receive were truly based on my willingness and desire to work and succeed. He said that I had earned all those achievements.
I felt such respect in that moment because this was the teacher with expectations of perfection and the idea that nothing can ever be good enough. It must have been true for him to go out of his way to say something as encouraging and respectful as that, for he is a man of very few calming words.